The NSPCC believe 1 in 5 children live with domestic violence. At To The Moon and Back Foster Care we are often asked to find a foster family who can support a child who has repeatedly witnessed domestic violence. This is recognised as a significant adverse experience for a child and seen often in addition to other signs of neglect and abuse.
We see the day to day effect of domestic violence on children and young people. We work with our foster carers to enable them to think about how to best provide a safe and nurturing home where the child feels supported to recover from their experiences or at least manage the trauma associated with being exposed often to high levels of violence within their own home.
Our experience comes out of working with children who have experienced the highest level of severity of domestic violence, often from more than one perpetrator. Significant numbers of looked after children may have lived with adults who have moved through several relationships that have included high levels of violence and control. Our aim is to share some of our knowledge and insights to help those supporting families or their own children living with or moving on from living with domestic violence.
This may inspire you to consider fostering a child or help you think about a child you may know who has lived through domestic violence in their own home. It is always our aim to inform the public about what fostering involves and the situations faced by foster carers, thus demystifying the needs of children who come in to care and the skills needed to support them through their individual challenging circumstances.
We are clear to say that not all children who have lived in a home where there has been domestic violence, will experience long term traumatic effects, however some children do. Many people will know a friend, colleague or partner who grew up in a home where domestic violence was the norm and they may go on to show little outward impact. This is not to say it has not had an impact on a child, it maybe they have learnt to live with, hide or move on from this without repeating the same pattern. This demonstrates that light can be found at the end of the tunnel.