When you are new to fostering, it is very difficult to know which questions to ask as you do not know what you do not know! After nearly a year of fostering, we asked our foster carers a few questions so that we could get an honest opinion of what they feel about fostering with us.
How long had you been thinking about fostering before you decided to apply? — We had talked about fostering for ten years or so and when we finally found ourselves in a position to start, we went for it.
Like many foster carers our carers had been thinking about fostering for a long time before they approached a fostering agency. Ten years is not uncommon in our experience but it can be shorter. The decision to foster is one of the most life-changing decisions a person can make, so no wonder it may take a while.
What made you choose To The Moon and Back Foster Care as your agency? — When we embarked on finding the right agency that suited our family, we created a questionnaire for ourselves and we asked each agency questions over the telephone… in effect we interviewed them for the role! Once we had shortlisted 3 agencies, we met with them all separately. Alison’s passion, coupled with the ethics of To The Moon and Back as a company, shone through and it was a very easy choice for us.
Our carers in this case were very confident in their approach when selecting their agency of choice. We actually loved the fact that they interviewed us.
How did you find the assessment process? Some people call it free therapy. — Not sure that we’d ever class the assessment process as free therapy but there were moments of enlightenment and enjoyment. It was an easy journey though, as the ultimate goal to foster stayed in our sights throughout.
The assessment of new foster carers is on the whole a very enlightening process. It is very detailed and has to meet various regulations set to ensure children are protected. We make the assessment comfortable and work with flexibility for the potential foster carers. We explain everything and work with empathy.
What was it really like to go through the independent panel questioning? — As a couple in our late 40’s and early 50’s we felt comfortable discussing openly our reactions and feelings. We have had a lot of previous experience raining young people and we were happy sharing it and answering questions that the panel posed us.
We felt we could learn from what was shared by the people on the panel, we held them in high regard. We were asked formally to feed back our thoughts after the panel so we felt our voices were heard too as part of the process.
The process of being interviewed by our independent Panel is seen by some as very daunting, however in reality it is a very friendly meeting and they work hard to put prospective foster carers at ease. Their questions and suggestions are intended to helpfully identify the carer’s strengths and areas where support may be useful.
After approval, how long were you waiting before you had a child placed with you? — We were waiting for around 2 months. This was mainly due to our matching criteria, we have our own family and we were encouraged by the agency to make thoughtful decisions when looking at referrals of children, so that any children joining us would fit well in to our family. We were matched for siblings and made preparations for them, but when the case went to court the court order wasn’t awarded and therefore the children didn’t come to us. The build up to getting ready for children being placed involves a great deal and when the children then do not come it can feel disappointing, however afterwards you feel better and can re-focus, as usually there are other children’s needs to be considered.
We work hard to provide local placements for local children. It’s important to us that we make good matches of families to children. In our first inspection last year Ofsted highlighted our thorough process for matching. We have a duty of care to match families as best we can. A good match enables better outcomes for children by ensuring that they have consistency and an opportunity to build strong long-term relationships.
How involved were you in the decision to have children placed with you? — Very. Alison certainly made sure it was our decision to welcome our first young person, but in order for us to make the decision, she gave us good advice and guidance, as she always does.
inspecting us against the latest standards said this independent fostering
agency is good because
Carers identify and are able to meet children’s individual needs.
Work undertaken by the agency and the carers reduces risks to children.
Placement matching is careful, considered and completed in partnership with the foster carers.
Practice is innovative and child-centred. Children are at the heart of all decision-making.
The agency’s statement of purpose is embedded throughout its work.
Children develop interests and hobbies and have positive, family-based experiences.
The agency has a strong focus on keeping children safe.
Foster Carers describe strong support from the agency
Children form good relationships with their carers
Children develop interests and hobbies and have positive family based experiences
How much training and development have you had in the first year, how has it helped you in your role? — Just about enough, we have felt that what we have had and continue to have is enough to make you feel ready for the job, but we haven’t been snowed under as yet!
Development is a key area for new foster carers. There is a lot to learn initially, but it is in bite-sized chunks and individualised. It doesn’t need to be academic learning, it can be very practical or reflective. We have provided a variety of conferences where we all learn together alongside other professionals from within the community which has proved to be very successful as well as fun.
How have your own children adjusted to fostering? — They love it. Our 3 year old, 8 year old and nearly 10 year old have slipped into this so easily and naturally, it’s really surprised us in a positive way.
The provision of support for foster carer’s birth children is very important. The support of the foster carers by their supervising social worker includes monitoring of birth children in the family so that we can ensure their wellbeing is promoted and that they are able to contribute positively in the family.
What does good support look and feel like from the foster agency? — “Alison”! Having someone to talk to, almost anytime and being able to get quick answers to questions when faced with situations relating to our foster children is great and having a feeling that someone’s got your back and is willing to really help you when required.
Alison role models the individualised support we offer our foster carers, working pro-actively with tremendous sensitivity and encouragement, building great relationships on a platform of trust.
What advice would you give to someone looking for a foster agency? — Do lots of research, take your time and don’t be swayed by large remuneration packages, they may well look good on the face of it, but please, please, do not judge an agency by what they pay, rather look at what you get as a whole to support you in your fostering role.
We have created a checklist for people looking for a fostering agency, which can be downloaded from our website. Going back to the survey Why Do Foster Carers Care 2013, financial remuneration is not high on the list, but fairness around pay is considered by some and providing that, comes down to the agency using the resources available to them to offer the best support for the child. The ethos of a company is important and it goes beyond what the marketing says.
What have been the biggest fostering challenges? — The “system” – dealing with the local authorities in their procedural ways, can be a challenge as they feel antiquated at times but that’s just our opinion of course. We know it’s a different way of working and we have had to make some adjustments about our expectations, with help from Alison.
We all work together as part of a multidisciplinary team around the children we support. As foster carers you are considered equal in the team, but as such are expected to play an equal part. It’s important to learn about the different ways we all work so that we can ensure we challenge where required. There are legislative parts of our work that cannot be changed and it is done for a reason. Whilst potentially frustrating when not used to it, it is our role to explain what is happening and why, because ensuring understanding is part of the foster carers development that we are here to support.
What have been the absolute fostering high points for you? — Watching a young person grow and change before your eyes, into the person they should have always been allowed to be, themselves. Priceless!
We couldn’t have put this better ourselves. It is indeed priceless, seeing young people grow. Polish doctor and pedagogue Janusz Korczak said
“Children are not the people of tomorrow, but are people of today. They are entitled to be taken seriously. They have a right to be treated by adults with respect, as equals. They should be allowed to grow into whoever they were meant to be – the unknown person inside each of them is the hope for the future.” Janusz Korczak (1879-1942)
References: Why Foster Carers Care Fostering Network 2013
We are delighted to welcome Kate Steere as the new Chair of To the Moon and Back Foster Care Independent Panel. For Foster Care Fortnight Our Director, Angela Hunt has taken time out to ask Kate a few questions about her thoughts of the Panel process and how she intends to support our foster carers and ensure that as an organisation we continue to learn and improve our services to our children, young people as well as our foster carers and staff.
Kate we are delighted to welcome you to our team. We acknowledge your experience, knowledge and skill as a Chair and look forward to the support you will bring to our continuous improvement as an organisation. What are you most looking forward to, having joined our team?
“From what I have heard and seen so far, the agency appears very child focussed, but also very keen to listen to and work alongside foster carers to achieve the best for children. I am looking forward to being part of that and of course to meet your foster carers and hear about their experiences. It’s always lovely to have new carers return to panel after their first year and hear about all the warmth, care, nurture and fun that they have offered children and the progress the children have made in their care”.
The independent Panel process is a big part of the foster carer approval process, how do you see your role in ensuring the process is a successful experience for our new foster carers.
“I hope it won’t feel like The Dragon’s Den! I
occasionally have to present to panels myself, so I do know what it feels like
and I too get nervous. I hope to make the experience as friendly and
comfortable as possible. I believe that you get the best from people when they
are relaxed. I try to make sure that new applicants don’t feel as if they are
being interrogated, rather that we are having a conversation about their wish
to be foster carers, about their expectations and how their life experiences
might be relevant when fostering.
There are some regulatory checks as part of the
assessment and at panel we make sure these have all been completed, although as
far as possible I will check this before panel.
As I am independent of the agency, I’m also interested to hear about new applicants’ experience of the assessment and I can use this, to feedback to the agency about ways to improve the process.”
What do you feel are the most important aspects of your role as leader of the panel during foster carer’s annual reviews.
“Well, I do have to make sure that all the regulatory
aspects have been met, but for me the most important part of the annual review
is to hear about the foster carers’ experiences caring for children, their
learning through this experience and about the support they have received from
Different panel members may be interested in different aspects of the fostering experience and so my role is to make sure that all panel members have the opportunity to ask the questions they want. Panel members come from a wide variety of backgrounds and include foster carers and those who were formerly looked after. The strength of the panel is in drawing on all that expertise when making recommendations.”
How have you seen the role of foster carers change over the years you have been involved in the sector and what are your hopes for the future of fostering.
“I have been a social worker for over 30 years, most of them working with children and families and in fostering. I have seen huge changes in that time. I think in the early years there was an assumption that having a warm, clean home and good physical care was enough. There are certainly more regulations and checks now and much more emphasis on safe care, but also on good support. There is also much more training available for foster carers and certainly in the last 10 years or so, the focus has been on providing therapeutic parenting and building attachments with children. In this way I think that the foster carer role is much more professional, with carers working alongside all the other professionals in the team around the child. My hopes for the future are that the types of support available to foster carers and children in their care broadens and is more readily available (especially support with children’s mental health). I also hope that the pool of foster carers can be broadened, by recruiting more foster carers from a variety of minority groups.”
We hear such a lot about foster carers feeling undervalued in some organisations but unable to make the change and transfer to another fostering agency for fear of things being no different when they have moved. What advice can you give to foster carers who may be thinking they need to transfer.
I think firstly you should be honest with your existing agency about feeling undervalued, to see if they can better support you, but then if nothing changes, start looking at what other agencies can offer and if they can better meet your needs. Think about what you want from an agency and ask lots and lots of questions of any new agency. Maybe ask some ‘what if’ questions. See if its possible to meet any existing foster carers from the agency, attend as many events available in a new agency as possible, so that you get ‘a feel’ for how things operate. If you are unhappy, don’t feel afraid to make that leap. There is a lot of variation between agencies but fundamentally you want an agency that appears very child focussed, one that respects, listens and works alongside its carers in a cooperative way and one that offers regular good quality training.
What is the best advice you have been given.
To think about what it must feel like for a child being moved from everything they know, and being placed with strangers; to try and place yourself in the child’s shoes. It’s simple advice that seems so obvious, but so easy to forget when managing all the other tasks that come with being a foster carer or social worker.
What is your best advice to newly approved foster carers.
To remember that asking for support and guidance when
fostering is seen as a strength and not a failure, so don’t bottle things up!
Use your supervising social worker to off load when you need to.
Also, to accept that nobody is perfect, and you don’t have to be. We all get things wrong sometimes, but the important thing is to be willing to discuss, reflect and learn from these experiences.
What advice can you give to foster carers.
Be willing to explore why a child might be behaving in a
certain way, because having that understanding really can make it easier to
manageand don’t take it personally, even if it feels very personal! (I know
that is harder than it sounds). Be willing to try different approaches, as one
size doesn’t fit all. Use the support offered and be kind to yourself, try to
take a bit of time out to do something for you every now and then.
Why people choose to foster
The State of the Nation Report 2019 undertaken by Fostering Network,
having asked foster carers directly, found that there are three main reasons
why families foster.
The desire to make a difference to the lives of children in care
The desire to offer children the opportunity to be part of their family
Really enjoy working with the children.
What we know about foster carers
At To The Moon and Back Foster Care, we know that our own fostering
families foster for the same reasons noted above, so we agree with the outcomes
that the biggest reasons to foster are altruistic.
What we hear and what appears to be reflected in the most
recent research (State of the Nation 2019) is that foster carers want to be
seen as equals and part of the perceived professional team and feel valued for
the work they do. The Fostering Network states that “foster carers are supervised, trained, skilled and experienced – and
ought to be well respected, sufficiently remunerated, offered ongoing training
and properly supported.
Sadly, I have recently had to reassure families when they have felt insulted as a result of comments, made by external professionals, about not being part of the professional team and we wonder why every year we have to replace the existing work force of foster carers at a rate of 10-12% every year, all before we actually start addressing the shortfall of around 8000 families. But it’s not just the external professional team that influences the foster carer’s feelings of being valued. Recent research showed that up to one in ten foster carers have considered transfering to another fostering service because they were unhappy with their agency. However they had not transferred because they were concerned about the transfer process. This reflects what we have experienced. We have been approached by amazing foster families considering a transfer but very nervous and subsequently wary of making the move to a different service. Amongst the reasons for not transferring were concerns about having to go through the assessment process all over again, and concerns that foster children may be taken off them. Seemingly their lack of trust in the system sees them resorting to “better the devil you know” and staying where they are, accepting they are unlikely to resolve issues and never have the improved service they would prefer and deserve.
What is the reality of fostering?
We acknowledge and appreciate that some views of fostering can be idealistic. For some who enquire about fostering, their willingness to care for a child who cannot live with their own family is overwhelmingly heart felt. At To The Moon and Back Foster Care, our extensive expertise, tells us that the children who need to be looked after, have, by the very nature of their reasons for not being able to live with their family, experienced adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). There is a wealth of knowledge, research and evidence to show that this has a profound impact on children of all ages and there is no child that comes in to the care system without having experienced or been touched by an element of trauma. We are clear with everyone we come in to contact with, that every foster carer and member of staff should be trained from the very start, to understand the impact of toxic stress, loss, separation, abuse and neglect. Why? Because we know we cannot expect families to provide care to traumatised children without the tools to do this well. We work using some key principles of therapeutic parenting and as such all of our social workers have a high level of skill and knowledge in this area.
“The fostering task requires carers who can become ‘therapeutic parents’ to looked-after children in a way that promotes the child’s developmental recovery, often after abuse, neglect and trauma”. (Bristol University Compassion Fatigue Research)
We should be surprised and shocked, but sadly we are not,
when we hear and see families who have not been prepared for fostering in this
way. My co-founder Angela Hunt and I have
worked in other organisations that have not been trauma informed and whilst the
staff and foster carers have done the best they can, the team had not had the
necessary training, development or expertise to prepare or support families for
the care they needed to provide. It was for this reason we set up To The Moon
and Back Foster Care, with a clear ethos of a trauma informed approach built on
a foundation of a skilled and equal team, focused on enabling our foster carers
to succeed well.
Our past experience is further echoed in the findings of Bristol University’s research “Almost without exception, the foster carers in the focus groups felt that they had not been adequately prepared during the three-day preparation programme and their home study. As one carer said, ‘fostering is about normalising the most extreme behaviours and pretending it’s a normal life, and it just isn’t a normal life at all really’.
The rewards of fostering – what families tell us
We work with some very inspirational foster families. Their perceived rewards of fostering are humbling and encouraging.
“The moments when you can see happiness in a child’s face and know you have helped to create an environment for them to flourish”. (Foster carer at To The Moon and Back)
“You’ve got to look for the little things. One little child was probably with us six months before they smiled, and it was just like the sun came out. Because sometimes it’s hard, very hard, and you’ve got to look for the little things that make you think it’s worth carrying on”. (Compassion fatigue research Bristol University)
“Amongst a mountain of despair comes a bright light of hope and an incredible need for love from a child”. (Foster carer from To The Moon and Back)
“The one person I keep going for is her … I love her and that’s what makes it worthwhile. Looking after her is 95% hard work and 5% reward, but that 5% reward makes every day that’s hard worthwhile.”“When a child confides in you with an experience or opens up about their emotions, it is so rewarding to gain a child’s trust”. (Foster carer at To The Moon and Back)
So what can we do to help, when it is not feeling great?
None of us should be surprised by how fostering can leave families feeling. Young people who have experienced trauma, abuse or neglect, have strong feelings that they struggle to regulate. Many have grown up in families where they have not been shown how to respond to strong emotions in safe ways. Our foster children show us how they have been cared for in the past, by the way they express their hurt, trauma and neglect. They are not able to regulate their complex emotions and therefore express their feelings through behaviour that we expect carers to try and understand, contain and live with.
Having been a social worker involved in fostering for nearly thirty years, I have been inspired that despite the level of trauma children and young people bring in to family homes our foster carers live with and many remain committed to doing their best no matter what children present. What I have found sad and appears to be shown through research on foster carers and compassion fatigue, is how little as a professional, some social workers think or talk about the impact of fostering on families without an element of blaming the families for lacking in something, (resilience, skills support network, understanding… the list goes on).
At To The Moon and Back we truly see ourselves as trauma informed and we share our thoughts about the expectations of a trauma informed foster carer from the moment a family considers fostering with us. Only last month we hosted a conference on secondary trauma with Dr Karen Treisman and invited not only our foster families but every prospective family who had applied to us to foster. We feel strongly that they should know what they are signing up for and what they can expect from our support and ongoing development.
Foster carers we feel, cannot be supported effectively unless we are talking safely about trauma and what it does to young people, but equally to them and their family. By “talking safely” we mean, in a safe trusting relationship where foster carers can be honest about their feelings and fears, without feeling judged. We say of this basic need that, “this is not rocket science” but common sense. We are delighted that in our first Ofsted inspection report, our inspector was able to see that our trauma informed culture, values and ethos are central to everything we do.
Foster carers looking to transfer to us, have given permission for us to share their stories of their agency.
“There were issues surrounding support“My first agency was focused on “heads on beds” and it wasn’t’ at all child centred” …. We never wanted to be in a position where we felt we had nowhere to turn to for day to day support… we became involved, through our own research and study, with an external support service, funded by ourselves“
“My first agency was focused on “heads on beds” and it wasn’t’ at all child centred”
“I think it is hard in fostering, you are generally on your own and support groups never really happened ….which made it more isolating“
The research undertaken by Bristol University reflect these thoughts, with further sad and shocking quotes from foster carers.
“I’ve been there with children when you’re just meeting the basic needs, and you’re doing what you think they need, but you’ve took on their trauma, and actually you can’t cope with that as well as looking after this person, so we’ve put a lid on it. We can’t take any more in that glass, so you literally are protecting yourself.” “Most foster carers felt that the social work professionals supporting them did not generally have the appropriate knowledge and understanding of issues of attachment and trauma, its effects on children and the challenges of caring. As a result, the support provided did not meet their needs.”
So why don’t families just move to a more supportive and trauma informed service.
In the most recent research undertaken by Fostering Network in 2019 only 53% of foster carers rated their service provider as good or excellent. One in ten families had considered transferring but didn’t. The biggest reasons given for not moving included feeling that the transfer process took too much time and effort and that their long-term placed child would have to leave them if they moved. One family apparently stated “I am redoing the assessment, but it has taken eight months just to get references!” Also mentioned as part of the report were delays to transfer caused by spurious concerns raised by the foster carers agency, alongside threats of deregistration, resulting in their new agency often halting or delaying the process. All of which we believe is unacceptable and a sad indictment of how we see the value of foster carers within the sector. Foster carers have a right to change agency, so much so that protocols are in place to support the process, ensuring that foster carers are treated with respect and the children in their care are put at the centre of the decision making. It is important that the transfer process is undertaken swiftly once a foster carer has formally indicated their decision to leave their agency, so that the carers can remain focused on the care of the child.
We have seen much of this for ourselves in previous roles with other organisations as well as more recently, in conversations with other colleagues and families who have discussed their intention to transfer. We hear the reluctance to move to another service and go through a full assessment only to find nothing is different. The carers invest in sharing intimate details about their lives and have their families and friends participate in another assessment. In The State of the Nation Report one family stated “We had to redo everything! References from family and friends, they met with them and interviewed them, they looked at our bank accounts, they asked intimate questions about our marriage and family relationships, they went through the whole invasive process again, from scratch.” It is acknowledged that the transfer process has to be thorough, but there is so much that can be done better. We work hard to make the process of transfer, meaningful and valued by the foster carer, using the time to reflect and be developmental, alongside the legislative processes which are purposefully rigorous and therefore unavoidable.
We are concerned that there are foster carers who, despite feeling so unappreciated, decide to remain where they are. Where a trauma informed approach or trusting relationship does not exist or has broken down we believe there is a cost to a foster carer’s wellbeing and therefore to the children they support.
One of our favourite trainers, Dr Karen Treisman, states “relational trauma requires relational repair”. This relies on there being a positive relationship with all parties and can only happen when there are safe relationships modelled throughout the organisation. We support our foster carers to care for children with relational trauma through relationship repair. Our foster carers are the secure base for the child to explore the world safely. Our supervising social workers are themselves, supervised using a relational approach, so that they too then become the secure base for the foster carer. This ensures that, in our case, the culture of the organisation remains true to the statement of purpose.
We firmly believe that having a supervision process that takes in to account working with trauma, enables issues, like the sharing of honest feelings raised as a result of caring for children, to be openly discussed. We know that sharing these this can feel risky in an agency that does not consider this part of clinical supervision as important and can leave families feeling vulnerable, judged and open to being seen as unable to cope as a foster carer. Just imagine, how would it be if you felt safe as a foster carer or a social worker in your supervision to explore these feelings which arise as part of the day to day work. We are told by foster carers who experience this type of supervision that they feel “topped up”, “heard” and “truly supported”, sometimes also relieved that what they are feeling is a normal part of fostering. We truly believe that this is what every foster carer should be getting as part of their support package.
We know the feelings that children raise in foster carers can give insight in to a young person’s needs. We have children for example, who engender despair and pain in our foster carers and children who leave our foster carers feeling unusually sad and tearful. This bears no reflection on the carer’s shortfalls, rather, evidences what is going on for young people that they are projecting on to the foster carers and the family. It gives us all clues as to how we might need to support children and therefore is an essential conversation we should be having. By having this conversation regularly it potentially reduces compassion fatigue in foster carers.
“Compassion fatigue can be described as the emotional residue, or strain of exposure to working with those suffering from the consequences of traumatic events. It differs from burn-out but can co-exist. Compassion Fatigue can occur due to exposure on one case or can be due to a “cumulative” level of trauma” (Figley, 1995)
I love the description used by Figley, he states “We have not been directly exposed to the trauma scene, but we hear the story told with such intensity, or we hear similar stories so often, or we have the gift and curse of extreme empathy and we suffer. We feel the feelings of our clients (children). We experience their fears. We dream their dreams. Eventually, we lose a certain spark of optimism, humour and hope. We tire. We aren’t sick, but we aren’t ourselves.”
This we hold true in our foster families and social workers who are empathic and sensitive to traumatised children. It should be spoken about and to not do so is damaging to foster carers health and wellbeing and ultimately the children they foster.
What we know, is that families who are not being supported by other professionals to recognise the impact of fostering on carers, is that the carers can feel judged, and criticised. We hear families saying that they were offered solutions to issues that were basically behaviour management tools which they knew would be unlikely to have a long-term impact on their child. We have seen foster carers throughout our careers, who have become isolated, perceived as challenging and difficult simply because they respond to criticism, solutions and guidance from professionals, in what are sometimes deemed as negative ways. I loved hearing from a foster carer who when described as being challenging, thanked the professional for the feedback. They knew that in their challenge of professionals they were acting as true advocates for a child whose needs were not being understood.
In the research carried out for a fostering service by Bristol University, the following quotes highlighted the findings from the research
“Foster carers also attributed lack of support to individual social workers’ lack of respect and empathy, which resulted in the carers not being trusted, their expertise being ignored and a lack of partnership working. Many foster carers also talked about social workers wanting to ‘solve’ problems rather than simply listening and being empathic, and this is not what they needed”
What we know about our social workers is that they too need empathic listening and supervision that supports them with the trauma that they work with. We end up otherwise in a cycle of all the professionals replicating the chaos of the families from where the children may have come, this manifests as blame, criticism and harsh judgements being made on other professionals.
“Some foster carers felt judged and blamed by social workers for the difficulties they experienced in caring for traumatised children. Feeling judged led to a reluctance to ask for help and concerns from carers that if they were honest about the way they were feeling they might get de-registered. Lack of support is likely to have contributed to the moderate to high levels of burnout and secondary traumatic stress, and moderate to low levels of compassion satisfaction which many foster carers reported”.
As foster agencies we have a responsibility:
To provide the right leadership and agency culture which encourages the building of trusting relationships with everyone in the team but especially the relationship with our foster carers, enabling everyone to feel safe about being honest and open about their feelings. To emphasise the priority of providing meaningful and individualised support of foster carers that they themselves value, recognising that we are all different and sometimes processes and approaches need to be reviewed to fit the needs of individuals To actively listen for signs of tension in a non-judgemental way, so that it can be discussed and the tensions relieved. To advocate for foster carers to be treated with respect and recognised as part of the professional team around the child, challenging on the carers behalf when the need arises To promote best practice, ensuring that our foster carers are informed about the impact of childhood trauma not only on the child but also on themselves
The transfer process can be a positive experience. One foster carer said of us”All Form F assessments can feel invasive, but Alison was very sensitive and understanding in her approach.” Another transferring family said that they had found the process with us “much more straightforward” than their previous assessment, and said “clearly the assessor had been able to get a lot from our files in advance, it had been surprisingly much more plain sailing than the initial assessment”. Furthermore they felt that because they were already foster carers they knew more than the first time and therefore everything was more understandable and therefore more enjoyable.
We are particularly sensitive to the transferring foster carer. We recognise that the decision to change agency is one that isn’t taken lightly. We treat any transfer to us, as an opportunity to reflect on the care being provided and offer a new space to reconsider support, development and training that may enhance that care. It doesn’t have to be an assessment that repeats the earlier process, but it needs to be rigorous and evidence based to show what has already been achieved and what more could be done with the right tools, resources and support. Often attributed to Einstein, “continuing to do what you have always done, hoping things will get better, is a form of insanity” or as I have already said, “comes at a cost” and having a good relationship with those supporting you really matters when trying to support a child who has experienced trauma.